When Life Doesn't Go to Plan
One of the first things you learn about adulthood is that life has very little respect for carefully constructed plans. This can come as quite a shock. When we're younger, planning seems wonderfully logical.


One of the first things you learn about adulthood is that life has very little respect for carefully constructed plans. This can come as quite a shock. When we're younger, planning seems wonderfully logical.

There is a moment after every disappointment when the future feels temporarily smaller. A door closes. A plan falls apart. An opportunity disappears. For a while, all we can see is what didn't happen.

One of the more disappointing discoveries of adulthood is that life never really settles down in the way we expect. When we're younger, many of us imagine that stability is waiting somewhere in the future.

Few things damage confidence quite like a setback. It doesn't matter whether it's a failed business, a redundancy, a relationship ending or simply a plan that didn't unfold the way you hoped. Setbacks have a way of shaking assumptions we didn't even